There was a lot to write about this so I'm going to break it into 2 articles. This one will be Part: 1 and include the first 4 mistakes.
So getting to it, one of the most frustrating things is when you get a woman’s number (and she seems to be totally into you)
… But then after a few texts she seems to lose interest, fizzle out, or go cold.
The natural reaction is to blame the woman. “She’s a flake…”
But if you do that, you could be missing a giant crink in YOUR GAME that is easier to fix than you think.
In fact, if you’re like most guys then you’re probably just making one (or a few) of these common ‘texting’ mistakes that will kill your chances with a girl.
The 7 Deadly Texting Mistakes
Mistake #1: Confusing Responses for Attraction
Before you’ve had your first date with a girl, she won’t feel much of a connection to you. As unfortunate as it may be, you’re probably not the only guy texting her.
See, a common mistake most guys make when they’re texting a girl is that they mistake responses for attraction. Often when a guy is getting a response from a girl, he believes that he’s getting closer to getting her on a date or to seducing her.
The exact opposite is true!
The more texts you send before meeting up with girl means the less of a chance you have of actually meeting up with her! That’s right: even if a girl is RESPONDING to your texts, you’re not getting yourself ANY closer to actually getting her out on a date.
Instead, say more with less. Whenever you’re considering what to text a girl, see if you can say it simpler, with less text. Most guys send pointless texts to women like, “How’s your day?” or “Enjoying the warm weather?” These texts DO NOT bring you ANY closer to a woman! They just beg for a response (which doesn’t mean anything).
To make sure you NEVER again waste texts on pointless chatter, ask yourself this golden question:
How is this text bringing this girl and I closer to a date?
If it's not then erase the text. It’s not going to help you.
Mistake #2: Not Conveying “Fun”
Here is the simple truth. When a woman gives you her number she is NOT signing a social contract to go out with you…
And until it seems FUN for her… she’s probably not going to bother meeting up with you.
So when you send boring texts that don’t display any personality or don’t elicit any emotions in her… in her mind you’re not worth the trouble of meeting up with.
Here are some signs you’re NOT being fun.
- Am I being stiff and formal “Hi. It was nice meeting you Friday”…. (too stiff. too formal)
- Am I putting pressure on her to keep the convo going?
- Am I badering her with question?
Remember, every text you send should make you seem like the FUN OPTION. The escape from her boring day.
Mistake #3: Not Having a Texting Style
If you’re texting an attractive woman chances are you are NOT the only guy she is getting a text from today, like I said before.
Hate to break it to you.
But between other guys pursuing her, ex boyfriends, co-workers, classmates, and so on… she’s got a lot of guys vying for her attention.
So if you want to stand out- your texts need to display your unique style and personality.
She should be able to know its a text from you just by reading it (even if the name was blocked)
What words, phrases, punctuation, or emoticons are uniquely yours?
Mistake #4 Having Long Text Conversations
Text conversations are NOT the same as actual conversations.
Texting should be the “Super cool” cliff notes of normal conversations. Meaning leave out the formalities.
The longer the conversation the more chances to mess things up or run into awkward confusion.
Everytime you pick up the phone… jump right into the good stuff. Start with anecdote. Start with a teasing nickname. Find a way to quickly spark an emotion and get her paying full attention to you.
Don't worry! I’ll be back soon with three more of the common texting mistakes men make.
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